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Treat your audience as smart and they might get smarter…

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Here’s an interesting study that might improve the response you get from people you’re presenting to.

Ori Brafman, co-author of Sway, describes the study much more succintly than I (full interview here):

In the study, a group of men and women–who had never met each other–were told to have a short phone conversation. Now, before the conversation, each man was shown a picture of the woman he’d be talking to. Unbeknownst to the men, the pictures were fake. And half the men were shown a picture of a beautiful woman, while the other half were shown a picture of a less attractive woman.

The pictures had nothing to do with how the real women looked like, and the real women had no idea that there were any pictures shown.

The kicker is that the women who the men thought were pretty ended up sounding beautiful on the phone. And the women who the men thought were less attractive ended up sounding less beautiful. We take on the roles others ascribe to us.

Interesting, eh?

I wonder how this might apply to presentations.

I know when I’m coaching I hold that person, tacitly, to the highest potential I can imagine for them.

Could you do this with a group?

After doing all of your realistic planning (for the questions that are going on in their heads, and so on) could you then go on to hold your listeners to a higher standard in your mind as you actually speak to them?

Could you go in speaking to them as if you can see their friendly, approachable, fair-minded sides?

Not overtly changing anything in your words or delivery, but going in with that mindset.

Certainly worth a try…

In other news…

In case you’re wondering where the hell I’ve been for the past couple of months, this economic Chicken Little situation has made me look very closely at my business.

We’ve come out stronger, more focused, and feeling good for the New Year.

A big part of that has been spotting gaps in my education and filling them.

Nothing really big has changed.

I’m offering more phone coaching, specifically around planning presentations and meetings and I have a strong awareness campaign planned, particularly aimed at helping senior IT Project Managers with presentations.

What else..

We’ve been in Sheffield and Hong Kong for HSBC, and Singapore for Siemens.

We were lucky enough to be kept in Hong Kong over a weekend, so decided to explore traditional Hong Kong by going… to Hong Kong Disneyland! Of course.

Sunday was the Big Buddha statue on Lantau island – take your thermal undies if you’re going in November. Having lived in Singapore so long, we forgot that other places have seasons, especially in the mountains – d’oh!

We’ve just come back from four days in the ridiculously cool city of Berlin (anyone know any senior IT managers in Berlin who present in English? I wouldn’t mind doing some work there…), and are in the UK for the home stretch to Christmas. I’m taking the time in between family visits to catch up on writing, and put together a detailed plan for the business in 2009.

And that plan includes… blogging again! I think my Inner Writer got stage fright for a bit. Apologies for the disruption in service.

Normal service is now resumed.

Focusing on your outcome without manipulating people

I need your advice, please.

Recently as I write and speak about the five planning questions from Rapid Presentation Planning (the e-book available at Cobalt), I’ve been increasingly uncomfortable with Question Two:

What do you want people to being doing differently when you’re finished?

Planning backwards from the response you’re looking for is important. It mirrors Covey’s ‘Start with the end in mind’ principle from the 7 Habits.

However, deciding what response you want people to have is dodgy for a couple of reasons.

Continue reading ‘Focusing on your outcome without manipulating people’

Studies show that respect, listening and shared values matter more than results

As a communication specialist, I’m particularly interested in surprising information about the effects of communication. I’m fascinated by those books like The Tipping Point, Blink, How We Know What Isn’t So, Freakonomics… the books that explore the irrational in human behaviour.

I’ve been talking recently about how we should be extremely clear and honest in our dealings, both in business and in our personal lives. This doesn’t mean that you spill every thought that passes through your mind, but it does mean you don’t hide things deliberately to make someone feel differently about you and your recommendations. I dubbed this concept ‘radical transparency.’ (I found out today Andy Beal got there first…)

I figure that all relationships fare better when everyone knows exactly where they stand.

Well, it turns out that I may be mistaken in how much this creates good feeling between people.

Continue reading ‘Studies show that respect, listening and shared values matter more than results’

Using numbers in business communication

This is a beautifully crafted article on how to deal with numbers intelligently written by Daphne Gray-Grant.

Couldn’t have put it better myself.

http://www.publicationcoach.com/free-articles/numbers.php

I’ve just signed up for Daphne’s free article series on corporate writing. She seems to be fantastic at clear and concise.

Presenting detailed but necessary info without people dying from boredom

I was doing a talk for the Small Business Group for the main women’s networking group here in Singapore.

One of the participants brought up the topic of how to convey admin-type information.

You can’t always have life-changing content, so here’s my thoughts on when you have less than thrilling things to convey.

Continue reading ‘Presenting detailed but necessary info without people dying from boredom’

What makes someone an inspirational speaker

I was thinking last week about what makes someone inspirational as a speaker, or at least interesting…!

Here’s what I came up with:

A real person speaking simply and passionately to real people about real issues.

Here’s what I mean.. Continue reading ‘What makes someone an inspirational speaker’

Dealing with people’s expectations of your profession

One thing that’s important as a specialist is to confound people’s negative expectations of what a person like you is like.

We were training some senior technical specialists in the UK last week, and I was watching their final presentations. One of the major things I noticed was the most successful sessions were ones that dealt with the expectation that an IT specialist would be very focused on their technology to the exclusion of all else. It made an enormous difference when they spoke about the business issues, how the technology fitted into the lives of the people they were speaking to, and used non-technical language.

People will have certain expectations of what a person like you will be like.

If you’re in IT, they will expect someone who is smart but geeky, interested in the nerdy features of their system, and very detail-orientated. If you’re in marketing or PR, you’re interested in making pretty lies, not in telling the truth. If you’re in HR, you’re either touchy-feely, or overly concerned for regulations (depending on what type of HR department the company has!). If you’re a financial advisor, you’re only interested in the sale, and not in genuinely looking after people. If you’re an accountant, you’re boring. If you do anything even vaguely un-mainstream, you’re a bit woo-woo.

When dealing with people’s internal circus (what they’re thinking and feeling about you and your topic), it is often useful to first acknowledge their concerns by stating them out loud, then dealing with them.

With these types of preconceptions, I think it’s better to just be different. If you say, ‘Well, a presentation from an accountant, I bet you think this is going to be pretty tedious!’, it may be that some of the people you’re talking to weren’t thinking that. Also, you’re setting the bar pretty high – a bit like saying, ‘Let me tell you a funny story – you’re gonna love this…’

Much better to just be more interesting by taking the time to telling stories from your life and making sure that everything is super-relevant to their current situation.

Tacitly confounding people’s expectations in this way can leave them pleasantly surprised, and move you a step closer to delivering a presentation they will listen to, talk about and act upon.

Pitching your communication at the right level – Edward Hall and High Context/Low Context

We work a lot with smart people who really know their stuff. This means that we often have to talk with them about how they pitch their material at the right level of detail. Having a multi-faceted understanding of your topic means that you see all the subtlety, and can sometimes find it hard to filter that for a group. It can often feel like you’re dumbing down to an ridiculous extent.

Edward Hall was an anthropologist who wrote some key texts about cross-cultural communication. I came across him when I was researching a programme which we called Global Communication Strategies. His work is accessible and fascinating.

One concept of his from cross-cultural communication that I am shamelessly appropriating for us here is the idea of High Context and Low Context. This is particularly relevant if you work in a technical or highly specialised field, but at times speak or write for people who come from outside of that field.

High Context is communication that relies very little, if at all, on the explicit words that are being used. Think of a couple who have been together for 15 years, and how much can be communicated with a glance. Almost all of the information is ‘stored’ in the context of the communication – High Context.

Low Context would be typing code for computers. Everything must be explicit for a computer – there is no room for even a punctuation mark out of place when typing code. None of the information is reliant on knowledge outside of what is expicitly stated, thus Low Context.

High Context delegation would be ‘Make the business more profitable this year.’ Low Context delegation would involve precise process instructions.

Hall’s idea was that this was a useful axis from which to examine national cultures. Particularly writing for a reasonably untravelled (at the time) American audience, he helped to unravel cultures that seemed so alien: Japanese, Mexican… Hall lived for a quite a time in Japan, and discovered that he was misconstruing much of what was being communicated because he was listening to the words, rather than working from an understanding about the way the words were being said, and what wasn’t being said. Coming from a ‘let’s put all the cards on the table’ American culture he wasn’t trained to respond to communication where much of the relevant information was being conveyed by the context in which it was delivered.

Just to be clear, we are talking about a continuum, not an on/off digital distinction. Speaking of relatively High Context, or relatively Low Context makes more sense.

Pitching your communication at the right level means finding where your audience is at with your topic. Using the metaphor of High/Low Context can be helpful if we take it out of the concept of national culture and apply it to any kind of in-group.

Watch your conversation the next time you speak to someone you know who is also a specialist in your field. How much assumed knowledge is there between you? What would be gobbledygook to your grandmother? If a friend from a different field came into the conversation, what would you have to apologise for and explain? This is how we communicate in a High Context situation. Much of the information is unstated and implied. It can also be very efficient in terms of time.

Now think about actually explaining your job to your grandmother…

My granny asked me the other day if it might be good for her to get a computer. Thinking about how much detail we went into to show her how to use her cable tv remote (‘First press this button – that will switch it on. Then…’) I know how Low Context the communication would have to be to teach her how to use the internet. Low Context communication is detailed and explicit and slow. My granny is a smart lady, it’s just that she doesn’t have a schema, a framework, to place instructions about website addresses, or even mouse clicks.

Pitching your communication too Low Context will patronise someone who is familiar with your topic. Pitching it too High Context for people who have little detailed understanding will leave them lost.

Particularly get sensitive to the specialist language that is used in your field. These are essential shortcuts in a High Context situation, but jargon in a Low Context one.

Like so much of your thinking about communication, if you pitch it just right, people won’t even be aware of the planning you’ve done. You’ll hit the right balance between what can be assumed and what must be made explicit, and your information will be that much more likely to slide right in.

Presentation Analysis: Jill Bolte Taylor – My stroke of insight – a neuroanatomist experiences her own stroke from the inside

This is an analysis of Jill Bolte Taylor’s extraordinary presentation on her experience of having a stroke.

Presentation on TED.com:

http://www.ted.com/talks/view/id/229

This presentation is possibly my favourite presentation of all time.

Jill is a neuroanatomist who experienced a stroke in her left hemisphere, and was able to map what was happening to her from the inside.

Things to note about Jill Bolte Taylor’s presentation on a technical level include:

  • Establishing credibility
  • Creating curiosity
  • Storytelling
  • Systematically using the space, her physicality and the voice
  • Visual aids

This is how she does it. Continue reading ‘Presentation Analysis: Jill Bolte Taylor – My stroke of insight – a neuroanatomist experiences her own stroke from the inside’

The president of East Timor is a great speaker

On Friday I went to a gala dinner hosted by the Foreign Correspondents’ Association of Singapore. The after-dinner speaker was Dr Jose Ramos-Horta, the president of Timor Leste, or East Timor.

In case you’re not aware, Dr Ramos-Horta survived an assassination attempt in February. This was his first trip out of the country since he returned for recuperation.

By using personal anecdotes with which we could identify, the president of the smallest country in Asia managed to make us feel like if we were only to spend a couple of hours together, we’d become good friends.

Firstly, he let us know that he had only handwritten notes for his talk rather than formal remarks. This was because, even though he has the budget for first class flight, the airline he flew with didn’t have even business class seats, and when the person in front reclined his seat, the Doctor couldn’t get his laptop open…

He told the tale of the assassination attempt beautifully, with an extraordinary amount of detail that only a skilled story-teller would give. He even talked about the dream he had during the coma, and the one nightmare he had had since.

Hello! The president of a country told us about his dreams and nightmares – you don’t get much more intimate than that.

He spoke of how he had bargained with God as a young student, letting God know that if he passed a written exam that meant he didn’t have to do the oral exam, young Jose would go to church every day, but if he had to take the oral exam, he would only attend on Sundays.

Well, even though he had not studied hardly at all, he passed the exam. Jose didn’t fulfil on his side of the bargain. Perhaps the assassination attempt all these years later was God’s revenge, he wondered.

And so it continued.

It was one of those interesting situations where showing apparent weakness, and humility, led us to see a strong man who spoke from the heart.

I have no idea of his skills as a leader (a bit of loose cannon, I wouldn’t wonder), but I left feeling he was a smart, warm man. A big part of that was his intimate conversational style of presenting and him risking showing us apparently unedited parts of his private life.

Something to think about next time we start editing our life in order to create an impression of strength…

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