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		<title>By: fdrecsfsd</title>
		<link>http://realsmartnow.net/2008/07/09/focusing-on-your-outcome-without-manipulating-people/#comment-870</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 17 Apr 2011 11:38:56 +0000</pubDate>
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		<title>By: Dany</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 17 Apr 2011 09:12:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[ajk1zy That&#039;s way more clever than I was eexptcnig. Thanks!]]></description>
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		<title>By: Cindy Starks</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Cindy Starks]]></dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Hi Andrew --

I think this is a very thoughtful piece. Not many people think about the fact that it is hard to get people to change their behavior based on a simple speech or presentation. Nor do many people think about whether there are ethical implications to trying to manipulate people to do something -- even believe they must have your product.

Thanks for opening a discussion about these issues and encouraging us to think about them more fully. 

I am a freelance corporate speechwriter. You might want to take a look at my web site (www.starkscommunications.com) for sample speeches and other writing.

Best wishes to you.

Cindy Starks]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Andrew &#8211;</p>
<p>I think this is a very thoughtful piece. Not many people think about the fact that it is hard to get people to change their behavior based on a simple speech or presentation. Nor do many people think about whether there are ethical implications to trying to manipulate people to do something &#8212; even believe they must have your product.</p>
<p>Thanks for opening a discussion about these issues and encouraging us to think about them more fully. </p>
<p>I am a freelance corporate speechwriter. You might want to take a look at my web site (www.starkscommunications.com) for sample speeches and other writing.</p>
<p>Best wishes to you.</p>
<p>Cindy Starks</p>
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		<title>By: Life After PowerPoint! &#187; Blog Archive &#187; The Goal is Change II</title>
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		<title>By: Andrew Lightheart</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 08 Sep 2008 10:01:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Hi Joanne

Yeah, I think you&#039;re right - authenticity is key.

I think that manipulation is when there is no *transparency* - ie when something is being done covertly to have people take a course of action that they wouldn&#039;t otherwise take.

I&#039;m now talking about this question as:

&#039;What do I want these people to be able AND MOTIVATED to do when I&#039;m done?&#039;

This allows for the passion of the speaker, but reminds us that there is choice from the other side.

Thanks for the input - makes me think and re-think. Which I always like...]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi Joanne</p>
<p>Yeah, I think you&#8217;re right &#8211; authenticity is key.</p>
<p>I think that manipulation is when there is no *transparency* &#8211; ie when something is being done covertly to have people take a course of action that they wouldn&#8217;t otherwise take.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m now talking about this question as:</p>
<p>&#8216;What do I want these people to be able AND MOTIVATED to do when I&#8217;m done?&#8217;</p>
<p>This allows for the passion of the speaker, but reminds us that there is choice from the other side.</p>
<p>Thanks for the input &#8211; makes me think and re-think. Which I always like&#8230;</p>
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		<title>By: Joanne</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 05 Sep 2008 04:37:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[As ever, perceptive. 

Influence/Manipulate - same same as they&#039;d say in Asia. The other  really decides if what I&#039;ve said is &#039;ok&#039; or manipulative.
Which is where authenticity is so key. Being authentic of self. And respecting of the others self.

Being respecting of others - as capable people who will move when it makes sense to them. Few people appreciate being talked to as children (including lots of kids!) Considering pre-existing questions is useful here.
And sense is that wonderful mixture of thought, feeling, logic, intuition and emotions.

It&#039;s not that I can&#039;t should not have a perspective or an interest, or that I need to be &#039;balanced and present all sides&#039;. Not everything is a formal scientific debate.  Some presentations are about balance, others have a passion of &#039;though hell should bar the way&#039; conviction. Authenticity here too.]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As ever, perceptive. </p>
<p>Influence/Manipulate &#8211; same same as they&#8217;d say in Asia. The other  really decides if what I&#8217;ve said is &#8216;ok&#8217; or manipulative.<br />
Which is where authenticity is so key. Being authentic of self. And respecting of the others self.</p>
<p>Being respecting of others &#8211; as capable people who will move when it makes sense to them. Few people appreciate being talked to as children (including lots of kids!) Considering pre-existing questions is useful here.<br />
And sense is that wonderful mixture of thought, feeling, logic, intuition and emotions.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s not that I can&#8217;t should not have a perspective or an interest, or that I need to be &#8216;balanced and present all sides&#8217;. Not everything is a formal scientific debate.  Some presentations are about balance, others have a passion of &#8216;though hell should bar the way&#8217; conviction. Authenticity here too.</p>
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